How To Adjust From Surviving Boy To Authentic Man
We will explore the following questions and end up with answers, practical tools and the awareness to turn things around in the moment.
Experience Level: Beginner
Physical Involvement: Sitting
Emotional Intensity: Likely Neutral
Categories: Relationships & Communication, Rites of Passage, Emotional Development, Sovereignty & Self-Authorship, Leadership & Purpose
People often meet me at a crossroads in their lives. At a loss or in emotional crisis lacking adequate tools, community or awareness to ‘deal with it like a man’. Either that, or they’re a success story and even through everything is crossed off their bucket lists, something deeper is stirring inside that wants to come alive. I ask the right questions and help things authentically fall together. Then the pennies drop and you become your own authentic man.
I came from dramatic beginnings: death threats, refugee camps, paternal abandonment, maternal enmeshment, childhood mental health issues and racism.
I moved to London and became a high-flying adrenaline junkie. Tight deadlines, extreme sports, anything that might distract me from the pain and emptiness I held deep within.
I realised that in order to free myself, I had to own my shadows and release the depressed ‘pause buttons’ from the past that kept me stuck in the same old story.
So I sat with my shadows and unlearned my limiting stories, turning addictive adrenaline into an enlivening endorphin buzz that I calmly share with my clients.
Previously, I worked in development in Fiji, co-ran a natural health centre in Sydney, worked with Mother Teresa’s in Calcutta whilst adventuring around the world. I followed life’s signs, resisted testing temptations and joined the jet-set island hopping seekers-of-the-truth as I unravelled what I carried within. My ‘accepted outsider’ experiences were a real gift.
The cultures and classes I mixed in had vastly different tribal rules, ways of being, belief systems and outcomes. I got to truly know people across the board and really understand what makes different people tick. I certainly got to know myself as I took part and constantly adjusted my boundaries and beliefs in the face of new experiences. Life kept showing me where I was stuck and I discovered how to release the ‘depressed pause buttons’ as I turned it around. I taught myself to be present and respond in the moment. I sat with my shadows and unlearned my limits.
I love to pass on my simple tools and techniques. I’m proud to belie the notion that men don’t willingly speak about ourselves. I work one-on-one, with business / life partners and hold the space for men’s groups. We turn our lives around.